Lessons On #BodyLove From New She Talks Asia Member Bianca Gonzalez-Intal
"Love yourself"—it’s a constant line we tell ourselves, our loved ones, and our peers. But how well do we really practice this? How often do we look at the mirror and say, “I love you?” How often can we confidently say “I am beautiful?”
She Talks Asia held its jam-packed The Body Love Conference last September 29 at Whitespace, Makati, where a number of speakers from different walks of life gathered to share their stories on body love. From discussions on self-worth to how emotions can affect your physical state, the whole-day event allowed the speakers and the guests to share their two cents on the topic of #BodyLove, and be inspired to start on their journey to real and genuine self-love.
Bianca Gonzalez-Intal had always been part of She Talks Asia since it started three years ago, usually as a speaker or a moderator. But this time around, Bianca finally takes on the challenge and becomes the fifth member of the She Talks Asia team alongside powerhouse women Sarah Meier, Victoria Herrera, Eleanor Rosa Pinugu, and Iza Calzado.
“[Bianca] has been around since the early rumblings of @shetalksasia but as of yesterday…I am thrilled to officially welcome @iamsuperbianca to the She Talks Asia team!” Sarah says about Bianca on an Instagram post. “Her prowess across all forms of media, her long-standing strength in the power of storytelling and discourse, and the objectivity and grace with which Bianca executes all she does, makes her a wonderful role model and a strong fifth pillar for our team. So excited to build together!”
She’s been around since the early rumblings of @shetalksasia (see first photo) but as of yesterday, with my partners @victoria_herrera @lynnpinugu And @missizacalzado, I am thrilled to officially welcome @iamsuperbianca to the She Talks Asia team! — Her prowess across all forms of media, her longstanding strength in the power of storytelling and discourse, and the objectivity and grace with which Bianca executes all she does, makes her a wonderful role model and a strong fifth pillar for our team. So excited to build together! #shetalksasia
The soon-to-be mom of two is also ecstatic that she is finally able to have the courage and time to commit to the advocacy organization.
She said, “Rewind to 3 years ago when I met up with @lynnpinugu, @victoria_herrera, and @sarah_meier over coffee as we talked about creating a platform to empower women. Life happened (aka I had my firstborn) and they went on with the mission, with my support as moderator and speaker for the past conferences. To be officially part of the team felt like a natural next step and I cannot be any prouder of #TheBodyLoveRevolution inspired by @missizacalzado's very own journey!”
Yesterday, I was formally introduced as the 5th member of @shetalksasia. ? Rewind to 3 years ago when I met up with @lynnpinugu, @victoria_herrera, and @sarah_meier over coffee as we talked about creating a platform to empower women. Life happened (aka I had my firstborn) and they went on with the mission, with my support as moderator and speaker for the past conferences. To be officially part of the team felt like a natural next step and I cannot be any prouder of #TheBodyLoveRevolution inspired by @missizacalzado's very own journey! . . Thank you Lynn, Iza, Vicky and Sarah for the inspiring work you do. Thank you to the whole team that worked hard on putting yesterday's conference together. Thank you to the inspiring speakers. And thank you to everyone who spent the day learning with us!!!! ???? . . Click on the She Talks Asia icon in my Highlights to see a bit of what happened, what the speakers said, and key takeaways from the event. ?
If you missed #TheBodyLoveRevolution or if you’re still recovering from your She Talks Asia conference high, here are some #BodyLove lessons and learnings that the group’s newest member picked up from last week’s event.
Mind, body, and spirit
Self-love is largely about how well you take care of not just your body, but your whole self. It’s about the things you eat, the things you do, the kind of stress you put yourself through, and the ability to remove the things that poison you from your life.
Bianca posted on her Instagram stories a quote from Iza Calzado’s “A Journey to Self-Love and Why it Matters” talk: “To me, self-love means being healthy…mind, body, spirit. It means making loving decisions for my body.”
More often than not, we feel pressured to do things or be something we’re not to conform to what society expects us to be. Especially with the prevalence of social media, there’s always a constant need to be validated by others. But more than trying to please others and trying to meet their expectations, we should take a step back and truly listen to what we want for ourselves first.
According to Bianca, one of her learnings from the “I Come First: Discussions on Self-Love and Self-Worth” panel with Ida Paras, Radha Cuadrado, Em Millan, and Dr. Gia Sison, is: “Take the time to know yourself as just yourself, not by how others judge you. Work on liking who you are. Do affirmations for yourself.
Did you know that what goes on inside your head also affects what happens outside your body? People tend to be ashamed of their mental and emotional disposition, but it’s something that should be addressed as well because a complete and holistic development includes the nurturing of the mind and the soul, too.
During the panel discussion on “The Emotional Body: How Our Emotions Affect Our Physical Body,” Bianca posted this quote from Mari Jasmine: “We are proud to post our workout selfies, developing our bodies, but why are we ashamed to talk about mental health? Taking care of your body is just as important as taking care of your mind.”
Mind the media
Beautiful bodies and flawless faces bombard our social media pages, billboards, and televisions. This is why many people have unrealistic expectations of themselves. But according to Bianca, we also have to be mindful about what we see, and know that these so-called “standards” are not universal things that should dictate how we see and accept ourselves.
Bianca says, “Be mindful of the media you consume, see bodies for what they are, and embody and embrace what you have.”
It starts with you
Positivity starts with you. Acknowledge your own strengths and weaknesses, but acknowledge that other people go through same issues as well. Bianca quotes photographer Sara Black during the panel discussion on “Media and the Impact on Body Image:” “It’s easy to dismiss a beauty queen and say, ‘Ah, madali lang to say love your body kasi ang ganda niya.’ I try to catch myself before judging others because everyone is going through something. We all have our own issues to deal with.”
Photos from @iamsuperbianca