EXCLUSIVE: Solenn Heussaff Is Expecting A Baby Girl—Read Her Get Candid About Her Upcoming Motherhood Journey
She talks about her iconic announcement photo, who she hugged when she found out she was expecting, and what attitude she’s going for as she blooms into a mother
Solenn Heussaff and Nico Bolzico are expecting a baby girl!
The power couple revealed the gender of their child via Nico’s Instagram post, complete with a sweet and wonderful message to their daughter. Plus, of course, Nico’s trademark wit and humor.
“We are having a baby girl,” he writes in the caption. “We were not supposed to reveal the gender until she is born, but since she is a girl, I decided to raise this topic now because there are some warnings that must be spoken to the world.”
He outlines the "stages" that future suitors will have to go through when courting his and Solenn’s daughter. He is a modern dad, after all. “#Wifezilla thinks I am crazy and doesn’t want to be part of this! I guess she is not a modern parent as me,” he ends, deadpanned.
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We are having a baby girl! We were not supposed to reveal the gender until she is born, but since she is a girl, I decided to raise this topic now because there are some warnings that must be spoken to the world. First, in my head, nobody is good enough for my girl, I might be wrong, but nobody will make me change my mind. For all my friends with baby boys aged from -2 (not born yet) to 5, no matter how close we are, you must know that our friendship will expire in 14 years. Of course I am a modern dad, and I understand that some boys will want to court my girl in the future, so I already put in place a very simple and super fair system that every suitor will have to go through to have a chance to court my baby girl (I will call her baby girl even if she is 20 and she gets embarrassed in front of her friends). Stage One: The #Patato Challenge This challenge will be strictly supervised by #Pechuga and it is very simple, the boy (from now on The Suitor) and me will place a piece of broccoli one meter apart from each other and #Patato will choose, if he chooses his broccoli then we move to Stage Two Stage Two: Staring competition with #ElGato The suitor will have to compete with #ElGato on a staring competition where the one that blinks first loses. In the case that the suitor beats #ElGato then he will move to Stage Three. Stage Three: The #Pochola Effect The suitor will have to walk #Pochola every morning at 6am and every night at 9pm, for 2 weeks, missing one day or arriving late will result in elimination. If #Pochola is properly walked, including regular visits to #Oreo and #Monty (her best friends), then the suitor will have unlocked the 3 pet stages, moving on to human interaction. The suitor will sit down with me, in a dark room with one light in one table, where I will ask 100 questions and he must answer fast. Failing in one answer question will result in elimination. After, the suitor will have earned the right to take my girl on a date. The first 3 dates I will personally join in a separate table. #Wifezilla thinks I am crazy and doesnt want to be part of this! I guess she is not a modern parent as me. #BabyBolz @solenn
The couple first announced Solenn’s pregnancy via cleverly-staged Instagram posts on their respective accounts. In August, Metro.Style caught up with the glowing mother-to-be Solenn at Paano Ba 'To?! Live, where she spoke about where she is now as a woman, highlighting her career, her personal life, and everything else she’s experienced.
Where are you now in life? What has your upcoming motherhood done for you?
"[It’s] probably the biggest change of my life as a woman. I’m also very new at this so I don’t know what to expect, I don’t know how difficult it’s going to be. I don’t know if I’m gonna be good at it or not. Again, it’s all about learning. As human beings, I think we have the capacity of absorbing so many new things and it’s all about accepting change. Because if you don’t accept change, that’s the moment things go downhill."
How did you and Nico feel exactly when you guys found out you were expecting?
"It’s not like it was a surprise because we’ve been trying. Every month, I would take the test. Every month is a disappointment also. A lot of people say you need to do it when you’re younger so it’s easier, which is true. But at the end of the day, you’re also giving up your youth. I can’t imagine myself being a mom at 22 or 23. It may be some people’s choice, and let’s say it had happened by accident, I would have dealt with it, I would have been able to overcome that fear. But it’s something that you can plan. It’s easier to make a mistake when you’re surviving for yourself, but when you’re up for a lifetime of responsibility, then you can’t f*ck up. It’s such a massive responsibility. When we were trying, I was having such a hard time. This is what people were warning me about when you’re past your thirties. I had myself checked. I was taking hormone pills. And then there, it happened! I was home because I was sick and Nico wasn’t home and I remember waking up tired. I’m usually the type where I wake up and I’m off to run!"
"Yeah! Energetic. So I was like, 'Oh, this might be it.' But I didn’t want to get excited because I didn’t want to get disappointed too many times. I just needed to chill and wait for it to happen. When I had my coffee and it tasted like sh*t, I was like, 'How is this possible? I love coffee!' So I started Googling ‘early pregnancy symptoms.’ I saw some of your food can taste metallic, tenderness of the breasts—I had so many of the symptoms and I was like 'Oh my gosh, this is it.' But I didn’t wanna take the test because I didn’t wanna be disappointed! Nico was in Japan. I was trying not to then I woke up at 4 in the morning because I was having a dream that I was pregnant and I was debating as to whether I should do the test now or wait for Nico to come home tomorrow. I couldn’t wait! So I did the test alone and I misread it so I thought I wasn’t and I was super sad. And then I re-read it. I was like so happy I hugged my dog! It was just me and my dog at home. I didn’t wanna tell Nico because I wanted to film his reaction and I wanted to see him in person. But Nico is so impatient—like me!—so he kept asking me every hour. He was gone for 3 or 4 days. He would ask every day. I’d be like, 'Babe, not yet.' Every day! And then that day when I did it, he was asking me literally every 20 minutes. But he wouldn’t stop, so I sent him a photo of the test and obviously he’s never done this before—so that’s a good thing—and he was like, 'I don’t understand! I don’t know what it says! What does that mean, yes or no?' I was like, 'Yeah.'
"I wanted to call him but he was shooting something. He kept hanging on me. He was like, 'Babe, I’m in a car with fifty Filipinos at the moment. I don’t how to react, I don’t know what to say, I don’t know how to keep this inside me. I’ll see you tomorrow!' We’re very like that, we’ve very buddy-buddy. That was a nice way to find out. And we kept it just because I’d heard of so many horror stories. Let’s keep it to ourselves, I said. I didn’t didn’t even tell my mom. I was doing the check-ups on my own. I wanted to keep it until we passed the three months, then I can tell our parents first, then the public would be last. At first, I wanted to wait until five and a half months."
What made you want to announce it already?
"People would just look at me weird. It’s like, they’d be like, 'Oh, you’re not having your coffee?' Haha. It would have gotten harder if I had kept it until six months. And the doctor said we were safe. So I said, 'Sige na nga!'"
We love your announcement photo so much.
"Thank you! Yeah, I wanted to to be something simple. I respect moms who have a feed full of their mommy stuff but it’s not my personality, so we announced it, I didn’t wanna put a photo of the baby, I just wanted to something that was very us, very comic."
Do you have an idea already of how you’re going to be as a mom?
"I’m pretty chill as a person so I think I’m going to be the same. Although they say when you’re chill, you become OA. I guess it will also depend on the gender. Not a birth, but maybe later on. If she’s a girl and she ends up being like me, I’d already be worried. Haha! If he’s a boy, he’ll be more makulit so you have to be more hands-on. But I’m just taking things little by little. Friends have been sending me stuff and I’m also trying not to listen to so many people, because so many people have so many opinions. I was posting a workout video and so many people started freaking out. I was painting and so many people were freaking out. Obviously as a mom, your first priority is to keep the safety of your child, so anything I do, I research with my OB, and online."
What about Nico, how do you think he’ll be as a dad?
"He’s stressed about so many things. He just wants the safety of the child. Every time we go to an ultrasound, I’ve never seen him like that. He’s always on his toes. Always worried, always needs to hear reaffirmation from the doctor. I’m like, 'Babe, just relax, just chill.' When the doctor says it’s normal, I’d be like, 'Okay,' and Nico will be like, 'What do you mean? How normal? Would it be normal in the future?' I’m like, 'Babe, breathe. Let’s just go with it as we go.' He’s a bit more on his tippy-toes. Haha!"
What’s the attitude you’re going for into your motherhood?
"I don’t want to let it define me. People say that when you’re a mom, you’re a mom. I’m like, yes, you are a mom, but you’re also you. And you’re also who you used to be. And you’re who you will be. I don’t want have that image of that’s all I’m going to be, it’s all I’m going to do. I’m very modern."
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At the #bulliedhusbandsclub we cracked the system on successful marriages! Very simple, the husband, as the man of the house, takes care of the big decisions, while the #Wifezilla takes care of the small decisions. Small decisions are: where to live, what car to get, where to go on vacation, what to eat, what movie to watch, who is in charge of the dishes, how many kids to have, among other small issues like that. Big Decisions are: What should be the next planet to be visit by NASA, how the bilateral relationships between China and the USA continue, where should the next Football World Cup take place and what supehero movies should MARVEL focus on, to mention a few. Very important that that the wife does not get involved with these big decisions that only the man of the house can take care of, and the husbands can not get involve in the small decisions! And that is how your marriage will be successful! For all of you asking, yes, we wake up sexy like this! PS: thanks Tita Virgie for the matchy shirts! PS2: the idea came from one of the oldest #BulliedHusbandsClub members, Albert Einstein! #SosBolz
The interview has been edited for clarity and length.
Photos from @solenn @nicobolzico