5 Crucial Lessons On Body Positivity And Self-Love That We Learned From BJ Pascual
BJ Pascual—you either know him as the fashion photographer that celebrities, models, brands, and society personalities adore like no other, or for his recognizable work in magazines, campaigns, and digital publications.
What you won't associate with him is a tough, ongoing journey of self-acceptance and a past riddled with moments of lingering physical insecurities that resurface once in a blue moon, episodes that manage to weigh him down on especially bad days.
READ: Andi Eigenmann On Being A Second-Time Mom, Her Relationship And Body Love
Who would have thought?
The lensman's social media accounts show him healthy and enjoying life, often in fashion-forward ensembles or topless outfits at the beach where he looks his absolute best. But that's the reality of his relationship with himself, BJ reveals, as he dives deep into his childhood and adolescence that he describes weren't as kind to him as his adult life is.
READ: Zach Miko Is The Plus-Size Male Model Encouraging Men To Embrace And Support Body Love
In an interview first published in Metro Magazine's 2019 "Body Issue," he fortunately ends this story with a happy ending. Though his journey of wellness—physical, mental, emotional, and everything in-between—can be full of ups and downs, he's made one massive realization that'll always be enough to keep him going: strive for your personal best and nothing else.
And in his very own words, he adds, "...As you get older, the less f**ks you give! And it’s better that way.”
It's a mantra that all of us need to keep in mind, and one that comes with lots of other mental notes worthy of memorizing. Here's everything we learned about body positivity, self-love, and focusing on your own growth and no one else's from BJ himself!
READ: Lessons On #BodyLove From New She Talks Asia Member Bianca Gonzalez-Intal
Turn the hurt into motivation
On Instagram, BJ continued his reflection on self-love with a story of how his childhood peers used to call him painful names for being a kid on the heavy side. It hurt a lot in the past, but as an adult, he turned the negativity into motivation to strive to become better.
Lingering won't do you any good, but the desire to prove bullies wrong is what should come out of experiences like this.
READ: Karla Estrada Has A Message Of Body Love For Pinays This Summer And Beyond
Professional help, please
He couldn't emphasize this enough: Do not, and we repeat, do not experiment with dieting and exercise regimens in an attempt to lose as much weight as quickly as possible! Although the method may help you drop pounds, its long-term effects are unknown, but likely not very good.
The best thing you can do is consult with a personal trainer who can give you an advice on the proper pace in which you should be working out (and what kind of exercises to do), as well as how you can transition to clean eating habits for sustainable results.
READ: Body Unfiltered: Iza Calzado Opens Up About Her Emotional Journey Into Body Love
The keyword is "process"
BJ looks amazing these days, but he wants everyone to know that his is a body that was literally five years in the making.
Don't be discouraged if results of your switch to healthy living don't yield noticeable results on the get-go; it takes time for your body to respond, and on your part, patience and perseverance. And even after achieving the results he wanted, BJ also comes clean about maintenance; reaching your body goals means having to stick to the pattern that got you there—there's no place for complacency and falling back on old habits!
READ: The Metro.Style Swimsuit Project: Expert Guide On Finding The Best Swimsuit For Your Body Type
Get to know yourself
It's totally acceptable to find inspiration from others, but what truly matters at the end of the day is getting to know yourself: what your body's strengths and weaknesses are, your assets and areas of improvement. It's the only way for you to know which areas to target and what issues to address; otherwise, you might be wasting valuable efforts on things that your body won't respond to as efficiently, or doesn't need at all!
READ: Tandem Workouts Are A Thing. This Is Why It's Good For You
Set attainable goals
At the end of the day, we must never forget that we're stll bound by certain limitations. That's not to say that we can never attain our dream bodies, only that we should set attainable goals that we can actually reach (in healthy, manageable ways), rather than strive for things that are close to impossible and could set us up for disappointment.
Like many people have said before, BJ says it again, from experience: everyone and every body is different. The whole point of getting healthy is not to fit into a certain mold, but to end up with a body and mindset that are healthy for you and make you proud to be you.
READ: 3 Treatments To Try If You Want To Achieve That Bikini Body
Check out BJ's Instagram post where he talks about his uphill climb to body love:
Photos from @bjpascual
