Metro.Style #HipAndHappeningMoms 2019: Princess Velasco
On Princess: Floral dress by H&M
It's been about a decade ago since this "Acoustic Princess" became a household name as a member of the popular ASAP Sessionistas group that was formed on the Sunday noontime musical variety show. It was a stint that served as a springboard for a professional singing career that continued to thrive despite being relatively distant from the limelight.
Fast forward to today, Princess Velasco is now the queen of a household, taking charge of her life as a wife to Herbert Rosario and a mother to Kobe and Milo. And this she does while pursuing personal passions through entrepreneurship and just recently, blogging.
Most of her days now are spent taking care of her husband and her kids, and she'd be happy to put everything else on the back burner to make sure she gets to attend to their needs. “We usually wake up around 7 or 7:30a.m. and early mornings are spent eating breakfast with the family then a little bit of playtime for the kids before bath time. I usually get to do my errands during afternoon nap time, or when my in-laws take care of my toddler. Nighttime rituals are cleaning up the kids and preparing our room for bed time. I diffuse calming essential oils at night to make our room conducive for sleep. We co-sleep, and the kids are malikot when they sleep plus I breastfeed Milo, so I usually get around seven to eight hours of ‘shallow’ sleep,” the singer shares.
In the midst of this event-filled, erratic cycle, the mom of two never forgets to take a break because she recognizes just how vital it is in carrying out her duties; there are date nights with the hubby, some music gigs, meet-ups with friends, and family days out.
But everything on her to-do list is planned and it needs to be that way, because how she spends her time ultimately depends on her kids' activities. She points out, “You choose the things you go to already, like the parties or reunions. You get to ‘Marie Kondo’ your friends list, I guess, so I really choose the group that sparks joy in my life. Kasi s'yempre with the limited time, gusto ko na sulit bawat oras."
On Milo and Kobe: Clothes by Gingersnaps
What is something about motherhood that actually surprised you?
“It exceeded my expectations. Akala ko talaga mahihirapan ako kasi I was used to being taken care of. It was always ‘me, me, me.’ Then I had a baby, and I was kind of surprised na kaya ko pala to take care of another person and not resent it at all. S'yempre may times na maiisip mong mahirap, pero you can do it. Even if you only have a few hours of sleep, kaya mo pa rin to function normally and happily.”
Did you ever have to go through postpartum depression?
“No, not clinically. But s'yempre, there were those baby blues. You have those moments when you just get emotional and couldn't help but pity yourself. But I don’t think it was that serious. My friends would tell me, postpartum is like being in a dark place. Hindi ko na-experience 'yun, thankfully. Whenever I would get stressed, my husband would take me out or buy me food that I like. The small things, they really helped me a lot."
What piece of advice can you share to those who may be going through postpartum depression?
“If you can’t function as, not just a mom ha, but as a normal person, it will affect your kids and your family, your life, and everyone in the house. If you feel like you’re experiencing that, consult a doctor and make sure you get treated. Or, at least, get counseling. Do what you can do to get yourself out of that rut, and to feel better. For me, a happy mom makes the household happy because everyone feeds off of your energy.”
How important is it for you to not forget about yourself and your passions even now that you're a mom?
“It's very easy to forget who you were before the kids, and for a time after I gave birth to Kobe, I only saw myself as a mom. I had a wakeup call when my husband asked me what I enjoy doing the most, and I told him that I like taking care of Kobe and being a mom the most. It was an honest answer at that time, but now with two kids, I'm thankful that I have something—my singing career—that defines me aside from being a mom.
"As much as we love our kids, I do feel the importance of not losing essentially who you are pre-motherhood. I honestly think that you should also evolve and combine that 'pre-mom essence' and 'motherhood' into the beautiful person that you are now as a mom.”
What is the best piece of advice you've received about motherhood, and from whom?
“Do not overthink things, which my husband told me at least thrice since I got pregnant with Kobe. I am a worrier and do tend to overthink. A healthy amount of worry is fine, but overthinking can bring unnecessary stress. So with his help, I have learned how to be more chill especially with motherhood. And I really believe that as women, we have good instincts, so follow those."
What words of encouragement can you share to first-time moms?
“Motherhood is beautiful and rewarding, but be ready to face the demands that come with it. Your life will change a lot, but don’t worry, the good greatly outweighs the bad and the ugly!”
"I was surprised by how much love we can give. And also how God made us women to be strong emotionally and physically to withstand the challenges of being a mother, and the many other roles we play"
Photos from @princessvelasco
Produced by Grace Libero-Cruz
Photography by Rxandy Capinpin
Makeup by Verna Marin for L'Oreal Paris
Hairstyling by Vivere Salon
Styling by Gelie Manansala
Special thanks to YummyTummy.PH
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