Metro.Style #HipAndHappeningMoms 2019: Sasja Mulder
On Sasja: Dress by Massimo Dutti
You’ve probably seen Sasja Mulder on Instagram, or have already signed up for what she calls her “booty camp.” Her brainchild, Pancake Butt by Sasja Mulder, has been making a name in the local fitness scene for quite a while now. Her social media feed and website showcase her as a fitness inspiration many women would love to follow. She gives solid words of motivation on body positivity, and encourages women to embrace the active lifestyle as a form of self-love. She pushes them to actually get down to work on achieving that ideal body shape and, ultimately, improving their well-being.
But even with a growing list of clientele, the 28-year-old knows her top priority. Aside from being a fitness, health & wellness advocate, being mom to son Maximilian will always be her number one role. “It’s my favorite job,” the fitness coach says about motherhood. How moms juggle work and family time is a constant mystery for many, but for Sasja, she simply makes that setup work because she knows which one should go first.
“I’m a mom, so I’m always thinking of him first,” she says. Her passion comes next. Sasja knows that to be able to fulfill her roles, it's also important that she looks after herself. Sasja shares, “I need to sometimes give myself a break, to take care of me. I’m very strict on giving myself at least one or two days where it’s just me and my phone completely goes dead or silent."
Just like how disciplined she is when it comes to fitness routines, Sasja takes control of her life with thoughtful consideration of her goals and reasons for existence. With Max beside her to constantly motivate her and assure her she's doing a good job, there's no doubt she’s living her best life now.
On Max: Top by Mango and pants with suspenders by Zara
How has motherhood changed your life?
“It completely changed my life. I didn’t want it, I wasn’t ready for it. But when I think about it, there’s no proper time that you actually get ready for it. You can get materialistically ready for it, but physically and emotionally, it’s absolutely impossible. So how it changed my life—I will tell you honestly, for the better. Before my son, I was going through a little bit of depression and confusion on what path to take on my life. Having him—he balanced me and gave me direction now.”
How did you get back in shape after giving birth?
“Breastfeeding, that was number one. I think that mother nature is very forgiving with that; it makes you burn 600 calories a day if you properly breastfeed. And I was active throughout my whole pregnancy, so I bounced back really fast, too.”
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received about motherhood, and from whom?
“I have a good friend who I tend to cling on. She’s older than me, and wiser. A good advice of hers is to ‘just be more lenient, you’ll survive.’ I just tend to keep it in my head especially sometimes when I wanna keep things so perfectly and routinely and timely. That it’s okay even if he doesn’t make it to his strict bedtime or he ate something that I’m not okay with. It’ll be okay.”
What to you is the most fulfilling thing about being a mother?
“Everything, honestly. Just the fact that I have created him and he’s still alive after four years. Seeing him fall asleep and just the fact that I know that he needs me is the most precious feeling in the world. The feeling of really being needed, being responsible for a human's life, and seeing him grow.
“I can’t even come up with just one single thing. It’s just everyday when he surprises me and says the weirdest things that he can come up with, you realize that, hey, life is more fun because I have him around.”
What is one thing about motherhood that actually surprised you?
“That even when you take a break on a vacation and you leave your son with the dad or the grandma, you still actually miss him. Like even though you spent 24/7 together, once you’re separated, you really miss him. That literal attachment is there. So it’s like, ‘I want you to be away from me' and at the same time ‘Please don’t ever leave me.’”
What pieces of advice can you share to first-time moms?
“You know what, nobody has it all figured out so just keep yourself happy, keep your family happy, keep your child happy in any way possible. And most importantly, keep them healthy. And this means food and exercise, staying away from the gadgets, and getting their feet dirty. Let them play outside, under the sun or sand. Don’t be too scared, and let them be independent. Not too much with the yaya. Let them fall and take the healthy risks.”
Three words that describe your life now?
“Tough, love, and exciting, because everyday is a completely different day with him. It’s just been one big rollercoaster ride, but I love rollercoasters.”
"When I had Max, I didn't know what I was doing, but I did know that I had a reason for doing something, which is keeping him safe, healthy, and alive"
Photos from @sasjamulder
Produced by Grace Libero-Cruz
Photography by Rxandy Capinpin
Art direction by Butchie Peña
Makeup retouch by Al de Leon for MAC Cosmetics
Hair retouch by Triple Luck Brow & Nail Salon
Styling by Gelie Manansala
Special thanks to HotDish
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