Iza Calzado, Kimi Juan, And Nikko Ramos On Dealing With The Pressures Of Social Media Culture
The three panelists were travel photographer and Zero Waste Lifestyle advocate, Kimi Juan; editor-in-chief of Slam Philippines and brand content director of Titan, Nikko Ramos; and actress and WWF ambassador, Iza Calzado-Wintle.
She Talks Asia co-founder Bianca Gonzalez-Intal was the moderator for the discussion
Bianca Gonzalez-Intal with panelists Kimi Juan, Nikko Ramos, and Iza Calzado-Wintle
While all three acknowledged how social media had them feeling not good enough at some point, the stand was unanimous that the interactive technology is a tool which has allowed many wonderful things that would not have been possible pre-social media age.
Here are some of the advice they dispensed to make the most of social media and to prevent insecurity and self-doubt from creeping in while scrolling through your feeds.
1. Be grateful.
Checking social media shouldn’t be the first thing you do in the morning. Instead, make an inventory of what you’re thankful for. “The moment that you have that, you set the tone to your day, kahit ano'ng makita mo diyan, minsan you get jealous, you get envious, you will be able to remind yourself na meron din akong sariling mga blessings, meron din akong sariling strengths,” states Iza. It also helps to know your value as an individual. “Iisipin ko, 'yung sense of self ko ba rooted in the number of followers that I have? Or is it rooted on who I am as a person and perhaps also my accomplishments?,” she challenges.
2. Curate what goes in.
“Everything you put out on social media is curated, try to curate what comes in, who you follow, what you follow. If their content doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, don’t take it against them. That’s against you, you’re following! Happy ka sa pino-post mo so it might not be such a wild idea na dapat happy ka rin sa nakikita at nababasa mo,” urges Nikko.
3. Find your purpose.
“Find something that is important to you and just focus on that,” suggests Kimi. Seeing trash on the beach, she had a light bulb moment. “I can use my voice in social media for something much greater, something that’s needed, something that people don’t talk about,” she recalls thinking. So her crusade for sustainability began. “I felt I had purpose on social media and I wasn’t focusing on comparing myself to others. Now the people that I follow are those into climate change, environmentalists. Now everytime I use social media I feel better because I see posts that encourage me to become a better person.” Similarly, Iza reveals that prior to her advocacy, Body Love Revolution, her insecurity and self-doubt were stronger when she goes online. “My voice is not just one artista who was promoting her every project, there’s bigger purpose for my platform on social media.”
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4. Know that it is not a competition.
Pulling back on his innate competitive streak helps Nikko. “When I see someone doing better, my instinct used to be to want to get there, to wonder what am I not doing, why am I not there?,” he describes. But now he is more mindful in reminding himself that there is enough room for everyone. “Other people’s wins aren’t your losses. Just because someone’s doing well, doesn’t take away from your potential to do well,” he says.
5. Take the high road.
Celebrity or otherwise, one is likely to encounter haters. Whether true or not, the attacks can still sting somehow. To lessen the blow, Iza advises to always take the high road and reply diplomatically. “When they bash you, it’s really not about you, it’s about themselves, it’s about the lack of love that they might feel, the lack of self-worth. They feel that they are not enough so they have to bring you down to make themselves feel enough,” she reasons.
6. Keep in mind that we’re all dealing with something.
Kimi, who admits that she puts her best self out for her followers, recommends focusing on the idea that we’re all human. “Everybody has their own problems, no matter how many followers we have, we all feel the same. There is always somebody who has a better life but everybody has their own problems,” she points out.
I’m extremely fortunate to have had people pass on so many things to me - lessons, time, help, more lessons. This Saturday I felt doubly lucky to have been able to do a little of the same. The day started at sunrise as our @slamonlineph team covered the Nike Hypercourt Camp for female ballers. By lunch I found myself speaking in front of and with the most incredible group of women I’ve been around (@shetalksasia @iamsuperbianca I will eternally be flattered and appreciative). From there it was a mad rush to @gatoradeph Hoops Center for the #SLAMRisingStars Classic practice where we once again shine the light on the most talented High School players in the country. It’s been a couple of days but I still can’t believe Saturday. Share something to someone today. And thank those who’ve passed something to you too!
Social media isn’t all that bad if you know how to use it properly. It was through social media that Iza discovered other women who shared her weight struggles. “It’s also about putting that story out there so people would know they’re not alone in whatever it is that they’re going through. I guess that is the true power of social media, in making others truly understand that we are all the same. The more we understand this about each other, the more we will be kind to one another,” she sums up.
Photographs by Nana Nadal