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6 Lessons That Movies Taught Us About Infidelity

Cheating is never okay, nor is it excusable.

Nonetheless, it happens. Not to us, we fervently hope, but the truth is, it could. In the unfortunate circumstance that it does, and we find ourselves in despair, looking for solace, for company, or for wisdom, we can either turn to our closest friends, or maybe to our most loyal companion on sleepless nights—movies, to find that which we seek.

Infidelity is not an uncommon theme in Hollywood, or even the local scene. Just like love, it speaks a universal language that almost everyone understands: pain. And while unfaithfulness is the ultimate betrayal, there are lessons to be learned and ways to deal with it gracefully. Here are some of them:


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1. The Other Woman (Cameron Diaz, Leslie Mann, Kate Upton)

The "other" womanor, in this case, womenaren’t necessarily the enemies.


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First of all, it’s not their fault that they were tricked into thinking they were the only ones. Of course, it’s a different situation altogether if the other women knew that the guy was married or committed to someone else, but still went ahead with the affair.

But in this particular case, it was Mark’s (Nikolaj Coster-Waldau) fault. Carly (Cameron Diaz) and Amber (Kate Upton) were victims just like Kate (Leslie Mann), and their open-mindedness to direct their anger towards the rightful person and view the situation with level-headedness led all three women to find something beautiful amidst the betrayal—a career, a new love, and best of all, unusual friendship.


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2. No Other Woman (Derek Ramsay, Anne Curtis, Cristine Reyes)

Sometimes you need to fight for the one you love when they seem to have forgotten how to fight for your relationship.


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We all want to believe that if someone loves us enough, they will automatically do what needs to be done to keep you, but that’s not always the case. Charmaine (Cristine Reyes) transforms from the timid wife to a dangerous woman scorned by her husband Ram (Derek Ramsay) and his mistress, Kara (Anne Curtis) in one of the highest-grossing Filipino movies of all time.

Veteran actor Carmi Martin (who plays Charmaine’s mother) effectively delivers the best lines in the movie that reminds us of the valuable lesson we all need to learn from time to time:

“Ang mundo ay isang malaking Quiapo. Maraming snatcher. Maagawan ka. Lumaban ka! Panahon na para i-pack-up ‘yang si Lucy Torres mo. Ilabas mo na diyan si Gretchen Barretto. Sabi nga niya sa Magkaribal, ‘You want war? I’ll give you war.’ Anak, ako na ang bahala sa red stilettos mo!”


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3. Crazy Stupid Love (Steve Carrell, Ryan Gosling, Julianne Moore, Emma Stone)

It won’t be easy, but it’s not impossible.


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Some people think that the longer you’re together, the stronger your relationship is, but sometimes long-term relationships develop gaps—in communication, connection, and intimacy, which sometimes results in finding those somewhere else.

The novelty of something new, of something exciting, is hard to resist, especially for someone who’s been somewhat unhappy in their relationship. But this movie shows us the beauty of rediscovering the familiar and reminds us that it’s hard to find because it takes years to develop that comfort and rapport with someone and it doesn’t just go away because somebody made a mistake.

It’s not impossible to rebuild a relationship, but it’s going to be harder than the first time you had to do it. But as Cal (Steve Carrell) said, “I will never stop trying. Because when you find the one... you never give up.”


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4. The Descendants (George Clooney)

While some infidelities tear families apart, some bring them closer.


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While tending to his comatose wife, Matt (George Clooney) finds out the reason why Elizabeth and their daughter Alex had a falling out and it was because the latter found out about her mom’s affair.

This isn’t your typical infidelity story because the affair itself wasn’t the main focus. Instead it focuses on its effect on the relationships around it. Matt suddenly finds himself in unfamiliar territory—solo fatherhood.

He says his wife was always the visible parent to their kids and in her impending death, he struggles to find how to be the father his kids need. The movie shows the apparent disconnect between him and his daughters but in the end, he realizes that just being there is half the job.


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5. The Mistress (John Lloyd Cruz, Bea Alonzo)

“Hindi dahil gusto mo, makukuha mo” [Just because you want it, doesn’t mean you’ll get it]


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Whether it’s revenge or love, the statement holds true. JD (John Lloyd Cruz) falls in love with Sari (Bea Alonzo) who incidentally is the mistress of his father. Convoluted but riveting stuff. For a little while, the situation works out as JD ironically becomes her dirty little secret. But when he starts to demand for more and she starts to question her relationship with Rico, things start unraveling fast between the three and everyone learns that not everything works out the way they wanted it to, but it leads them to where they must be eventually.

In the end, it wasn’t about finding love or losing it. It’s about self-discovery and atonement. Things had to happen that way for everyone to get the closure they didn’t know they needed to move forward in their lives.


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6. In the Mood for Love (Tony Leung, Maggie Cheung)

Getting tempted is one thing but falling into temptation is another.


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Neighbors Chow Mo-wan (Tony Leung) and Su Li-zhen (Maggie Cheung) find themselves in an uncommon friendship as they learn that their spouses are having an affair with each other. Over time, they acknowledge that they have developed feelings for one another, but nothing ever comes into fruition.

Even though their spouses fell into temptation, the two leads didn’t allow themselves to give in just because they can or because they were wronged. Their paths remain uncrossed after they parted ways, but their lives were forever changed.

Sometimes we need to take the higher road and not act from a place of anger, hate, or even loneliness. Pain changes us, but it’s up to us to make sure the change is for the better. Besides, there are no accidents or missed chances. Everything that happens brings us closer to where we’re supposed to be.