This is Why You Need to Go on That Blind Date
The flurry from the wedding of the year has just started to die down a little after weeks of ooh-ing and ahh-ing at every little detail of Prince Harry and Meghan’s fairy tale beginning to their happy ever after, and now we can concentrate on the most important lesson their union has taught us—go on that next blind date.
But how can one person go on an honest-to-goodness blind date in the age of Tinder, Ok Cupid, and all other dating sites and social media platforms that are there for easy recon work? Maybe the term ‘blind’ needs to be redefined. Or maybe, it’s us that need to be reprogrammed to stop typing in names of people our friends want to set us up with and find out what they look like, what they ate for dinner, how pretty their last girlfriend was, how many mutual friends we have, how many mutual friends we have with their ex, and even what they’re doing right this second.
People complain about courtship and romance not being what it used to be, but the moment people have the chance to actually participate in a worthwhile mystery game, they launch straight to Facebook and type away at the search bar.
Tsk tsk. The digital world has made stalkers of all of us, gawking at potential Prince Charmings through curated grids of tiles where people only show the highlight reels of their every day lives. What a sad thing.
Blind dates are fun. They give you the chance to be anonymous if only for a while, and aren’t you a little bit curious about how that feels like today? As the world has witnessed, blind dates can be highly successful. If the Duke of Sussex gave it a go, why shouldn’t you? Cecile, a successful doctor, recounts how she met her husband on a blind date back in 2003.
“I decided to go on blind dates because so many people wanted to set me up (with relatives, neighbors, friends etc) that it was easier to just give in.I tried to keep an open mind and look at everything as a learning experience. I just wanted to expand my comfort zone and I decided that making small talk with complete strangers was a necessary life skill. I agreed to go out with people I didn't know, and I didn't Google them beforehand (because this was before the age of FB and Instagram).
I went on 26 different blind dates (in 3 months), and my 26th date was with the man who became my husband. He was the last person I dated. Needless to say meeting him made the entire ‘dating experience’ worthwhile.”
Ces and Mark have been married for 13 years now, with 2 beautiful kids, living in a dreamy white-picket fence suburbia somewhere in the South.
Now, that could happen. But you could also have a terrible date. Or a series of them. You’re going to have your apprehensions, and if you’re the anxious type, you might obsess about potential killers in the mix. You might, in the middle of the date, casually wonder (and regret) why you didn’t sneak a peek into his profile just to save yourself time and trouble to not go on this date. Yes, there’s a chance that will happen too. Cupid doesn’t exactly brag about his success rate in blind dates.
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But in a world made smaller by the internet, don’t you want to play a little bit more on the dangerous side of not knowing anything about someone before you make a judgment about them? Don’t you want to find out if there are little nuances about them you might have missed in a bad profile photo that signal they’re perfect for you?
There are things we should reserve to know straight from the people we could end up loving. Facts like how they take their coffee should not be learned from a flatlay of their beverages at Starbucks, or which side of the bed they sleep on from that selfie they took with #wokeuplikethis. Those little secrets need to be learned from picnics on the beach three dates in or whispered between morning breaths a year and a half from that awkward first date.
Love isn’t something you want to play safe. It’s one of those things you can go blindly in and see clearer than you ever had before.