7 Pre-Wedding Reminders Every Soon-To-Be-Bride Should Keep In Mind

You only get married once, and we always dream of having that perfect wedding in our heads. And whether we planned the whole thing to a T, there will always be challenges along the way—from dress fit to uninvited guests to new discoveries about your partner that you need to work on before tying the knot. 

And empowering ladies on self-care, TRIZIE took it up a notch by making sure that brides-to-be will have a seamless time leading to The Big Day. Recently, they held the “#ShakeItTilWeMakeIt Down the Aisle” event, where they invited brides-to-be, newlyweds, and wedding experts Benz Co-Rana, Kyra Lee Echon, and Mariel Batinga for an insightful discussion on the before, during, and after a couple give their “I dos”. The gathering offered helpful tips and lessons for women no matter what stage they are in their couple life, with everyone nodding their heads and taking notes of all the helpful reminders from the attendees.

If you also recently got engaged or maybe a few months or weeks into your wedding, we’re sharing what we learned from that weekend brunch. Here are important notes to consider and really think about—keeping your figure in shape, aligning your goals as a couple, all the possible stressful encounters come The Big Day, and more, included. Read on and keep your cool—the following advice will surely transition you to the Bride-chill-a you dream yourself to be.

Set realistic health goals.

We know, we know—the pressure to be toned and sexy on your wedding day is real. And to be honest, it’s easier to just follow a fad diet and get those nice curves asap. The catch: It isn’t healthy. The best way, according to nutritionist and dietitian Kyra Lee Echo, is to be realistic with your goals. “It’s important to set realistic health goals that align with your lifestyle and normal body processes,” she points out. 

Get help if needed.

Kyra advises to eat more whole foods—all those non-processed, good-for-you delights. However, with our fast-paced lifestyle, it’s hard to veer away from ready-to-eat meals, especially when you’re always on the rush. While she still advocates for healthier choices, “If hindi talaga kaya, try supplements, like fiber,” the nutrition expert says. She emphasized on how essential fiber is, as it helps in the flow of the digestive system and controls fat. 

Don’t take everything so personally.

On the topic of planning the “perfect” wedding, Weddings At Work founder Benz Co-Rana says it’s quite impossible to achieve. “You have to be open, to be not rigid—because not everything’s going to go your way,” she shares. Especially when comments from your family and friends come into the picture, she believes that having a steady mindset will help you navigate all the preparation. “Know that they're coming from a place of concern—then their comments will be met with love. But if you feel like you’re being attacked, then you’re going to look at all the concerns as negative,” she muses.

Talk it out with your partner.

Benz spilled a not-so-known fact: that how you plan your wedding is going to be an insight of your life after. She asserts, “So everything you see during the preparation, all the red flags—work on it. ‘Wag n’yong iisipin na, ‘Ah, pagkakasal namin, magbabago ‘yan.’ It’s not; it’s going to amplify.” Her advice? Communicate. She adds that no matter how hard it is to talk to, you should openly discuss it with your partner, especially if a problem has been persisting for a while already. 

Trust your instincts.

When choosing the wedding dress was brought up, Benz had a very particular advice: You should trust your designer. “Habang sketching pa lang, alam mo na agad kung gusto mo o ayaw mo, e. If sketching pa lang and may doubt ka na, bawa't fitting, mag-e-emphasize ‘yung doubts mo. So if sketching pa lang and you feel off, don’t push it,” she stresses.

Put money in the equation.

Part of getting married is having shared expenses—and Simply Finance founder Mariel Batinga believes that this should be talked about head on. “Before getting married, discuss your shared financial goals,” she shares, adding that learning about how your partner grew up around money is also an important matter to take note of. Through this, you’ll have a better understanding of their spending habits and learn how to reach a compromise between the two of you.

Set your own savings as well.

Mariel says that having a shared account for couples is a personal choice, as couples differ from one another. And while this is a good move, it’s also essential to have your own personal savings and encourage your partner to have theirs as well. “Know your individual goals and talk it out, so you can support each other,” she offers. “Alignment of personal goals and regular check ins with your partner is important.”

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