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Do Your Cake Cutting Ceremony Differently—Here's How!

In the era of engagement shoots in exotic locations, cinematic same-day-edit videos, top to bottom reception styling, and couture wedding gowns, the cake cutting ceremony has, for better or for worse, remained unchanged.


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A tradition passed down to us from ancient Rome, the cutting of the cake is the first task that the newlyweds will perform together. It’s a symbolic gesture of their commitment to selflessly provide for each other, a picture-perfect moment of two lovers sharing a bite while onlookers lightheartedly cheer. All of us have witnessed the tradition countless times, it’s no wonder that most couples hardly give the act any thought.



But you’re not like most couples, are you? You blaze the trail, you make your own way, you take the road less traveled. I thought so. If you’re looking for inspiration then you’ve come to the right place. I’ve met couples like you before and we pulled off some truly unconventional twists on ye olde cutting of the cake!



Use cupcakes or macarons instead.

The part of the tradition that’s often neglected is the apportioning of the cake slices to each of the guests. It used to make sense when wedding guests could all fit in a large living room, but not anymore, not when the whole barangay is invited. Most wedding cakes these days are only partially edible anyway. That’s why substituting a traditional wedding cake with a macaron tower or a stack of cupcakes makes sense. Not only does it eliminate the need to slice (you can go straight to stuffing the sweets inside each other’s mouths), it’s also ready to be passed around to your guests!




Change the cutlery.

This was an inspired stroke from a recent wedding. The best man had just given his toast, and he ended it by giving the groom a gift: a full-sized replica of Longclaw, the sword of Jon Snow, King in the North (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, then just imagine a really big sword). Since the cake cutting was next, I talked the couple into using Longclaw—and they promptly hacked the cake to pieces like an undead white walker, much to everyone’s delight.




It doesn’t have to be cake.

The symbolism still works even if it’s not a cake, and you can add an additional layer of meaning to it, too. One couple of mine cut slices of prosciutto, from a whole leg of it, no less! Then washed them down with gulps of beer. The reason? Prosciutto and beer were what they had for their first date—the pairing was just more “them” than cake and wine. Another couple of mine used Oreos, with glasses of milk to wash them down. Why? Because they really like Oreos and milk, that’s why.



Pay extra, add drama.

You could also just make the cake ten-feet tall. Put lights or animatronics inside it. Project a video of your proposal on it. Have the cake descend from above. Make a statement with your cake cutting tradition and go full crazy-rich with it. Let me guess. Oreos and milk suddenly sound a lot more appealing, right?



Some wedding traditions deserve to die (i’m looking at you, doves!). The cake cutting tradition isn’t one of them. Do it. At its worst, it’s a cute and cheesy little gesture, one that you might as well do once in your life with your new wife or husband. At its best, if you put your mind to it and make it your own, it becomes a highlight of your wedding night, another way for you to connect with your guests in a meaningful way.


JC Alelis is a seasoned wedding host, entrepreneur, and father. For bookings, check out