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#RealWeddings: This Same-Sex Couple Tied The Knot In An Intimate City Wedding

It was a beautiful day that proved love truly wins.

Koko and I met in 2008 through a friend outside a cafe in Ermita, Manila. We got introduced by a friend (found him cute instantly, to be quite honest) and after frequent hangouts with groups (and learning that he had a crush on me) we would meet again until we both agreed to be exclusive. The rest, as they say, is history.

Koko and Myrrh Koko and Myrrh | Pat Dy

Our love story isn’t any regular telenovela with a you-and-me against the world plot. Yes, we had our own shares of ups and downs and the countless hurdles that are inevitable for any LGBTQIA couple, but for the most part, it was full of fun and adventure—powered by growth and choosing to love each other everyday.

On our 10th anniversary last November 18, 2018, Koko proposed to me. After a sumptuous Japanese dinner, he took me to the same floor inside the building of the same corner unit where we lived in 2009 for two years, and asked me if I would be willing to spend the rest of my life with him. And true to my over dramatic self that’s forever full of big reactions, I bawled before saying YES to him and a custom JJ Jiao diamond ring.

JJ Jiao wedding bands JJ Jiao wedding bands and engagement ring | Pat Dy

The following days I would already start booking suppliers. Pat Dy and Bob Nicolas were my non-negotiables. A ballroom with big windows was next, a minister who would officiate our marriage and all other details followed suit. I had all those ideas planned out but Koko and I also wanted to lawfully be married. Enter: Melbourne, Australia where everything was done so fast we almost decided to just stay there for good after legally getting married last May 15, 2019. Coincidentally, the same day to commemorates IDAHOT (International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia).


#RealWeddings: Love Truly Wins, Same-Sex Pinoy Couple Ties The Knot In Melbourne

Our Manila wedding was still a go because we wanted to put together a celebration with our families and a few of our closest friends who weren’t present at our Melbourne wedding. Also because I personally wanted to walk down the aisle, because why not? 

It was a partnership project—the theme and concept, the food, EVERYTHING was what we both wanted. The Baz Luhrmann-inspired indoor secret garden, our velvet tuxedos, guests dressed up in black ensembles, silver, black and white tableware; even the after-party DJ with lechon and cake, plus tequila for a night to be remembered—all those and a vibe that’s very true to our personality as a couple: an easy, timeless love. —Myrrh Lao To

Exchanging vows against a Gary Dacanay floral arch Exchanging vows against a Gary Dacanay floral arch | Pat Dy

Wedding Suppliers:

Church/Ceremony venue: The Conservatory, The Peninsula Manila

Reception venue: The Conservatory, The Peninsula Manila

Date of wedding: November 15, 2019

Wedding coordinator: Marge Montemayor / Events by Marge

Photographer: Pat Dy

Videographer: Bob Nicolas

Invitations/Printers: Print Cafe

Designer entourage: LSW

Designer groom: LSW, Dries Van Noten, Gucci

Florist: Akong Gugma

Set designer/stylist: Gary Dacanay / Gary Mindworks

Tableware: Casa Luxia

Jewelry designer: JJ Jiao

Priest: MCC OpenTable Community Church

Cake maker: Penk Ching

Hair and makeup artist: Jelly Eugenio and Raven Dizon (Myrrh), Mac Igarta (Koko)

Shoes: Christian Louboutin / @loveluxebags

Gift registry: Rustan’s and Crate & Barrel

Cocktails: CarTales Manila

DJ: DJ Mike Lavet

After Party Snacks: Lydia's Lechon

Wedding hashtag: #KokoMyrrh


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