Four Days of Self-Love, According to Happiness Doctor Lia Bernardo—Here’s Day Four!

Last month, we spoke to Happiness Doctor Lia Bernardo about finding happiness and helping others harness it from within themselves. She’s an expert on self-love and psychoneurology, a drug-free alternative to traditional psychiatric and psychological practices. Psychoneurology operates on the belief that humans aren’t ill, broken, or diseased; rather, each individual human being is already perfect and whole, and they simply “lack the resources or skills needed in order to deal with their challenges,” according to Lia.

She’s talked extensively about her own journey to self-love, and courageously reveals that it’s her calling to teach it to every single person on the planet. Because of her expertise on the matter, Metro.Style asked her to envision four days of self-love, leading up to Valentine’s Day and beyond. So much of this invented holiday is focused on the material and gift-giving aspect, the capitalism that’s everywhere. So we invite you to take a moment and follow along to Lia Bernardo’s Four Days of Self-Love. 

Here’s the fourth and final day!

“For the fourth and last day,” Lia says, “Raise your frequency. Raising your frequency to me is the number one tool for happiness, and what does that mean?”

How do you do it?

“You’re calibrated to your feelings, so that if you’re not feeling well, you stop asking why. See, ‘why’ is the most damaging question to ask when we’re not feeling okay, and I’ll tell you why. It’s because when you’re angry, what’s the first thing you say? ‘I’m angry because…’ and then the ‘because’ always leads to blame, ‘because Lia said this,’ or ‘Lia did that,’ or ‘Lia did not make me pansin.’ It’s always blaming somebody else for your pain.

“Whereas if you say… what can… I’m angry, there’s nothing you can do about it. You’re angry, and that’s a fact, and you don’t deny that, but then you say, ‘What can I do to make myself feel better?’ And… and when you do that, you actually flip it. I call it “flipping” eh, and then you don’t entertain the anger anymore. You raise your frequency. So, raising your frequency means asking yourself, “How are you feeling today about yourself? What’s your inner weathervane like?”

How does it work? 

“One of the most effective resources towards creating self love and happiness is the ability to calibrate to our vibrational frequency. It’s all about what you are feeling,” Lia says. “Vibration is about feeling the energy of a person or a space and even a situation.  When we are mindful about raising our vibrational frequency we feel good within and we come from the best version of ourselves. We respond to others based on how we feel about ourselves. This is why actively and consciously raising our frequencies is such a powerful tool.”

Produced by Kate Paras-Santiago
Photography by Ronan Capili
Makeup by Angie Cruz
Hair by Francis Guintu
Styling by Edlene Cabral
Videography by Pat Buenaobra
Video Producer Joan Ko
Shot on location at Chef Jessie Restaurant, and The Rockwell Club.